#2 Jealousy
- Jennifer Parker
- Apr 12, 2016
- 1 min read
#2 Jealousy
One of the most misunderstood ideas out there is jealousy. Myths and misinterpretations about it abound. In the next set of posts, I’ll endeavor to answer and raise discussion about the following points. Much of my discussion will center around Dossie & Eaton’s premise that “jealousy is a shell over a real emotion,”as presented in their landmark book, “The Ethical Slut.”
“Being jealous shows they care.”
NO.
NO NO NO NO NO. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
I have heard far too many abuse victims use that line to justify their toxic relationships!
If they are jealous of you, they don’t trust you! On the surface, they don’t trust your commitment to them. Delving deeper (and referencing #2B in this series), they don’t trust you enough to tell you why they are afraid you’ll leave and have a healthy discussion about it.
Jealousy means they can’t bring themselves to express that they care in a healthy way. Date healthy people, or at least people actively trying to become healthier. Don’t be sucked in by toxic cultural norms!
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