#3 Jealousy

#3 Jealousy

One of the most misunderstood ideas out there is jealousy. Myths and misinterpretations about it abound. In the next set of posts, I’ll endeavor to answer and raise discussion about the following points. Much of my discussion will center around Dossie & Eaton’s premise that “jealousy is a shell over a real emotion,” as presented in their landmark book, “The Ethical Slut.”

“I’d be too jealous of my partner seeing someone else.”

Any time anyone has said this to me it has come off as a defense mechanism, as though they think I’m trying to convert them. I assure you, I’m not, and the real reason they read it that way is they are afraid of breaking tradition by even being exposed to new ideas. I’m not trying to convert them, they’re just insecure enough in their relationship to even hear that there are healthier ways of doing it. So, in this one, people really skip jealousy and head right to purely denying their insecurities about their own relationships.