#2 CHEATING: What Cheating Really Is

When I tell people I’m polyamorous, they always ask, “Do they know about each other?” and half the time follow it up with, “Well isn’t that still cheating?” I try to be patient because I know what’s old to me is new to each person I talk to, but this one really exasperates me. So, as I’m posting the following weeks’ discussions, keep that in mind if I sound wry or caustic.

What Cheating Really Is

Cheating is a breach of establish boundaries. It is a breach of trust. It is disrespecting and diminishing the other partner, deeming them unworthy of even the most basic courtesy in relationship- let alone the ability to act as a partner. Whether the cheater has sex or emotionally bonds with someone while excluding and keeping their so-called partner in the dark, they are not even giving the partner a chance to provide them with what they decided to search for elsewhere- or bless them to go looking for it.