#2 Coming Out As Poly

“Coming out” seems to have become an umbrella term for telling anyone that you are anything other than a model citizen of the 1950s. The act can be anywhere from outright rebellious confrontation to subdued, intimate sharing. When coming out in any context, it’s best to consider the Who, When, and Why of it. When do you come out? After you’ve lived together as a triad or vee for a decade? After the first group date? Never? It’s all based on your group comfort level! And of course, it depends on the context and necessity of people knowing that your group isn’t “just friends.” Personally, I’ve found that it’s easier for people to accept the unusual after they know some mundane, standard things about you. Otherwise, you risk becoming nothing but a token, or judged entirely on being an “outlier” even though you may actually live the most boring 9-5 reality possible aside from your one deviation for the good ol’ ‘50s.